We start out in marriage so close and intimate. Then, over time, things can get more mechanical and stale between us. We start to drift apart and feel less loved and appreciated by our mate. Is this normal, and is there anything you can do about it if it is happening in your marriage?
It is very common for their to be relationship drift in all lasting marriages. It's normal, but if not corrected it can cause marital crises or divorce. Relationship drift often leads to separation and cheating. What can be done?
One of the best, and thankfully, easiest cures is to begin to add back more PLAY into your marriage. Play is one of the top two keys to a great long term relationship. You used to play a lot in the beginning of your marriage. Then you got lost in the pressures of making a living and raising kids and stopped playing very much with each other. This always causes problems.
So one of the first, easiest things you can do to stop relationship drift is to bring back more play in your marriage. Set up date nights where you spend some quality time doing things you both enjoy together. You dont have to have more than one date night a week, but just one can make a big difference.
Make this a special time where you dont complain about work or talk about the kids or other family issues. Make it a time to relax and enjoy the occasion and each other. Focus on your partner and you having a good time.
A second powerful way to reverse relationship drift is through sex. Sex can become someone stale and mechanical over time. You want to keep it fresh and passionate. You don't have to try every position in the kama sutra or anything. Great sex is not about new positions, usually.
One easy method for better sex is to have sex when you aren't both too tired at the end of the day. Make some time for sex when you both will have energy rather than be half asleep. Then simply take that energy and focus some of it on pleasing your mate. They'll definitely notice and get more into pleasing you as well.
These two tips can begin to turn around relationship drift. Adding more play back into your love life can quickly improve your marriage. Your mate is just like you. They want to have fun, feel appreciated, and feel like you are a special partner in their life. Just ten minutes or so a day of extra focus on playing with them can make both of you feel special again in each others eyes.
It is very common for their to be relationship drift in all lasting marriages. It's normal, but if not corrected it can cause marital crises or divorce. Relationship drift often leads to separation and cheating. What can be done?
One of the best, and thankfully, easiest cures is to begin to add back more PLAY into your marriage. Play is one of the top two keys to a great long term relationship. You used to play a lot in the beginning of your marriage. Then you got lost in the pressures of making a living and raising kids and stopped playing very much with each other. This always causes problems.
So one of the first, easiest things you can do to stop relationship drift is to bring back more play in your marriage. Set up date nights where you spend some quality time doing things you both enjoy together. You dont have to have more than one date night a week, but just one can make a big difference.
Make this a special time where you dont complain about work or talk about the kids or other family issues. Make it a time to relax and enjoy the occasion and each other. Focus on your partner and you having a good time.
A second powerful way to reverse relationship drift is through sex. Sex can become someone stale and mechanical over time. You want to keep it fresh and passionate. You don't have to try every position in the kama sutra or anything. Great sex is not about new positions, usually.
One easy method for better sex is to have sex when you aren't both too tired at the end of the day. Make some time for sex when you both will have energy rather than be half asleep. Then simply take that energy and focus some of it on pleasing your mate. They'll definitely notice and get more into pleasing you as well.
These two tips can begin to turn around relationship drift. Adding more play back into your love life can quickly improve your marriage. Your mate is just like you. They want to have fun, feel appreciated, and feel like you are a special partner in their life. Just ten minutes or so a day of extra focus on playing with them can make both of you feel special again in each others eyes.
About the Author:
You can discover more marriage advice in a book about Marriage Help To Rescue Your Relationship. Johnnie S Laney teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses. You can get a free course on 7 Vital Relationship Insights Your Mamma Never Taught You here at Love Marriage Advice.
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